For several days I've been reading this blog. Currently the ongoing debate is that it is more "Christian" not to send your daughters to college(you must scroll down at least a week to start at the beginning of the debate). The reasoning is because a woman's sole role in life is to birth children and be a "helpmeet" to their husbands.
I have kept my mouth shut but my heart has been weighted down with each additional post.
My comment on the "helpmeet" part of the discussion is that the view is extremely legalistic making women no more than slaves. If man and woman's relationship is supposed to resemble that of Christ and the church where is the friendship? Why has it disappeared from the scenario? (John 15:14-15)
As to why women should not be allowed to go to college, I must admit, I'm at a loss for words. As a college graduate I feel more capable of being a partner to my husband, not less. And having a degree does not make me less of a Christian either.
So I leave you with the following questions:
1. If God provided a woman with a creative, intelligent, discerning brain, don't you think he intended her to use it?
2. Most of these women homeschool. And while I have nothing against homeschooling, and while a higher education is not necessary to teach, wouldn't it add value to the children if the woman who was teaching them had a higher education? I would put the education on the plus side and not the negative.
3. God did tell women to be fruitful and multiply as well as telling her that she needs to partner with her husband. But NO WHERE in the bible does it say that those two things are the woman's only jobs in life. As a matter of fact, the bible does talk about women who do other things, like Deborah. Isn't it a limitation to God to say that a woman's only job in life it to have kids and run the home?
Friday, February 10, 2006
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9 cool peeps said...:
I don't know if I could reply to this without it being a post of its own. Suffice to say that that kind of thinking is most certainly legalism.
So stop reading the blog, will ya?
Well, at least we have "the vote" still. Or do they think women shouldn't be voting either?
I guess they want women to be subserviant to men and not get too smart or we won't need them.
Hum. I don't think I will even look at the link. I haven't even seen it yet and already going RARR~!
Wow what a neat post. I found your blog off of "Basketball window."
I think that site is full of crap. All it is are a bunch of legalistic men and women taking thins out of context. No where int he bible does it command a woman "not to go to college" where do they get that junk?
I do believe a woman who becomes a mother should put her family first and her children first especially. If a woman wants to start having a family she should consider their lives before her career.
I hate to see women out there who look so forward to becoming "Moms..." yet 6 weeks after giving birth they are back to working 40 hours a week.
If a woman wants to be a mother they should try to sacrafice that part of their life atleast for the 1st few years... A infant grows so fast... those years are so precious.
Why waste them away on a job that gives you a little more income to live more comfortably.
I know some mothers have to work... single moms... or moms whos husbands cant work... but if you can live without the extra income I challenge all women 2.
My husband and I make a very small salary through the church.
We live pay check to pay check.
I could work... but I made the choice to raise my son myself... and sacrafice a few fun things in life so I could do this.
Okay Im getting way off point now. lol
I think women who go to college arent in any way out of the will of God.
I do not think they are being un-submissive by working... or by going to get an education.
Theres not a thing wrong with it.
Some women dont even want to have kids. I dont think theres anything wrong with that. If a person doesnt want children they shouldnt have them. There are some women who werent mean to be moms. I hear "Oh mothering comes natural to women." yea right. In the ministry we have seen so many bad mothers...
Its very sad.
I sometimes think to myself "Why did they even have kids if thats how they are going to raise them?"
Any how. LONG QUOTE good grief I talk to much.
Wow, I can't believe some of the "poo" that is on that other site. (I'm with pezmama...stop reading) But yes, I understand why you would be weighted down reading it...I only skimmed and already started feeling heavy.
My feelings are pretty much the same as yours on this subject. I too have a degree, and I think it will better serve my husband and myself and my kids.
I just don't understand how these people can find enjoyment in subjecting themselves to such legalism. I think God intended for us to enjoy life while we were here too...
There's so much I could say about the whole subject...gets my blood a boilin'
You're right - I am going to stop reading. It's interesting that I find these blogs. Why me? It's not like I look for them. They are hateful and repressive. I can only say that after I read them I have a stronger understanding of what I beleive. Perhaps that's why they are put in my way. Oh, who knows?
I'm a homeschooling mom and usually when we spend time with other homeschoolers I opt for the secular inclusive groups and avoid the Christian (you must sign a statement of faith to be one of us) groups because the idea that I should discourage my daughters from attending college, quite honestly, drives me nuts. Not that all Christian homeschooler embrace that idea (they don't.) but enough do that it's easier for me to avoid them than to spend too much time with them.
That being said, my very best friend believes it best not to encourage her daughter to go to college because she believes a woman's role is as a mother and helpmeet to her husband. Period. I have to bite my tongue often when we get together. She knows I am not of like mind and manages to put up with me, so I do the same for her. :-D
Ditto to the above comments. WELL SAID!! What about a woman with a Doctorate in Theology? hmmmmmm
Hi, Heather,
Im really shy as you can see. hehe. Came by your blog via the Mount of Laundry SarahGrace Sermon Mommy. Okay, that's not her real name (BIG HUGS SG!!) but you get it.
PS. pezmama, your avatar rocks my socks. (Or maybe my shiny red tube top and gold lasso). very cute.
Hi Heather,
It's good to be back here! :)
I'm finally doing some catching up AGAIN on my blog reading. Feels like I'm always catching up lately. I haven't been over to the link yet, I will though. I agree with what you wrote and as a homeschool mom, I will definitely encourage my daughter to go to college. I prefer it to be a small Christian college but how can there possibly be anything wrong with a woman getting her degree? I wish I had one.
Love ya, Heather, seriously... you're my sister eternally.
I have had that same debate with a friend of mine who is a Christian and homeschools her two girls. She will not send her girls to college or let them even work after high school. Her goal is to find them a husband to take care of them.
My point to her was....who wants a dumb woman?!?!?!? I'm not saying that every woman who doesn't go to college is dumb. But who wouldn't want the best for your daughter? I have three daughters and I certainly do and you're darn right I'm going to send them to college.
My girls have talked to her girls and they are pretty bummed about it. The oldest one's thoughts are 'why should she even finish college if it's not going farther than that?' She is now 17 and has rebelled. They are still being homeschooled (I have absolutely nothing against that). She is much on the dark side now, wearing all black, dog collars, etc. It's pretty sad. I think that they'll leave after they turn 18 and try to make a life for themselves. I have told my friend that and she says she won't let them. Hello? They'll be 18.
I'm sorry, I could go on and on about this and it's just getting my blood boiling again. I just have to keep it in prayer.
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